DATING · BODY AWARENESS

Why am I attracted to someone when my body says no?

Sometimes the story looks perfect in your mind, and then you meet in person and your body says something else.

The fantasy can be real, and your body can still know something more

The conversations may be deep. The chemistry on screen may feel electric. You may imagine an entire future. Then you meet and notice tension, tiredness, no response, or simply “no.”

That does not mean everything before was false. There may have been a real connection, while meeting in person adds information that was not available before.

A response is not a promise about the outcome

One useful idea in body-based work is that a genuine response does not always lead to the outcome we planned. Sometimes the body says yes to a movement because it brings us to a place, an experience, or the next person we need to meet.

The goal is not to use a chart to predict “Is this my person?” It is to notice how your body gives you information in real time.

What can you notice on a date?

• Does your body expand or contract when you are with them?
• Do you want more, or does your mind want the story to work?
• Are you trying to manufacture a connection?
• How do you feel after you part, not only while you are together?